Aaron was the best thing that happened to my life, we met through the Internet and chatted for a couple of months before we actually met. So during the period of "chatting" I should say, we get to know more about each other so to avoid any feeling of awkwardness when we meet.
For the past two years that we have been together, there were ups and downs as like any other kind of relationship that normal people have. But what I should say is that, within the 2 years that we have been together, I've learnt a lot from him and know what to expect from his behaviour and so forth. With him, I got to meet his friends and seeing things through his eyes like an example; being always curious about anything which I have never done before. Because before I met him, I'm a very sensitive person as I'm always careful of what I'm going to say so as to avoid people or myself getting hurt.
For the first few meetings with Aaron was fine and lovely, everything was smooth as you know its called the "Honeymoon period".... But as time passed by, what I should say at this point is that when you know your other half so much in a short period of time, things can sometimes get a bit rough here and there and thus makes things sometimes a bit complicated.
Because when Aaron and myself are not staying together, we will chat on Msn almost every day, so that's where we keep in touch with each other without paying overseas calls on our mobile. So when we chat there are sometimes which he will irritates me a lot when I'm talking to him and his mind will wonder somewhere else and not listen. So if I questioned him about that, he will not admit, I mean I should expect that from him huh... So if I do the same, he thinks that I'm not being nice to him and stuff, but in actual fact I just want him to feel what it feels like being ignored that's all. Sometimes he gets nervous for nothing and then all hell breaks loose and he'll drag me into it when that happens, rushing and forgetting something, really hate it when that happen.
And he will always have his opinions about something which I should say sometimes are not nice ones and he'll always give a comment on everything. At first I was ok with everything because I know very well that people are open to their views and opinions about things and they have a say in whatever they want. But the longer it get, the more frustrated I get about it because he just want to say something about everything and that can sometimes get a bit annoying. One day as he was talking about something and commenting as usual, I suddenly came to a point that I had it, I guess I have to tell him and "oh boy" was it a nice thing to do. I told him that I know he is very curious about everything around him and so on but there is a line where he has to stop asking or as I should say commenting about things. Because if to him that everything is always wrong or improper and if he say those thing to the wrong person who is not acceptable of his thoughts, I should say that he can get himself in trouble for doing that. When I told him that, he just kept quiet and told me that I was right in a very sarcastic way. I told him if he wants to listen to my advice he can but if he choose not to, he can do that to but I told him that he have to be careful when he say things around people. I mean its up to him, I'm not forcing him to change but my guess is that it will make him a better person if he do so.
So I guess I have to be patient and understand him as I know that it is really hard for him to do the same as he had been behaving in that way for most of his life.
I'm not complaining or what so ever but what I learnt from this is that, the person that you choose to love sometimes have these imperfect qualities that some people don't want to find in their partner but for me what I see through these imperfections are unique and perfect which I think sometimes makes me want to stay another day with him. Regardless of how many arguements we have, we tend to let it pass by and move on to the next because we know that we can make things work and that these small waves that we have just makes us even more closer.
Love you Aaron!!
For the past two years that we have been together, there were ups and downs as like any other kind of relationship that normal people have. But what I should say is that, within the 2 years that we have been together, I've learnt a lot from him and know what to expect from his behaviour and so forth. With him, I got to meet his friends and seeing things through his eyes like an example; being always curious about anything which I have never done before. Because before I met him, I'm a very sensitive person as I'm always careful of what I'm going to say so as to avoid people or myself getting hurt.
For the first few meetings with Aaron was fine and lovely, everything was smooth as you know its called the "Honeymoon period".... But as time passed by, what I should say at this point is that when you know your other half so much in a short period of time, things can sometimes get a bit rough here and there and thus makes things sometimes a bit complicated.
Because when Aaron and myself are not staying together, we will chat on Msn almost every day, so that's where we keep in touch with each other without paying overseas calls on our mobile. So when we chat there are sometimes which he will irritates me a lot when I'm talking to him and his mind will wonder somewhere else and not listen. So if I questioned him about that, he will not admit, I mean I should expect that from him huh... So if I do the same, he thinks that I'm not being nice to him and stuff, but in actual fact I just want him to feel what it feels like being ignored that's all. Sometimes he gets nervous for nothing and then all hell breaks loose and he'll drag me into it when that happens, rushing and forgetting something, really hate it when that happen.
And he will always have his opinions about something which I should say sometimes are not nice ones and he'll always give a comment on everything. At first I was ok with everything because I know very well that people are open to their views and opinions about things and they have a say in whatever they want. But the longer it get, the more frustrated I get about it because he just want to say something about everything and that can sometimes get a bit annoying. One day as he was talking about something and commenting as usual, I suddenly came to a point that I had it, I guess I have to tell him and "oh boy" was it a nice thing to do. I told him that I know he is very curious about everything around him and so on but there is a line where he has to stop asking or as I should say commenting about things. Because if to him that everything is always wrong or improper and if he say those thing to the wrong person who is not acceptable of his thoughts, I should say that he can get himself in trouble for doing that. When I told him that, he just kept quiet and told me that I was right in a very sarcastic way. I told him if he wants to listen to my advice he can but if he choose not to, he can do that to but I told him that he have to be careful when he say things around people. I mean its up to him, I'm not forcing him to change but my guess is that it will make him a better person if he do so.
So I guess I have to be patient and understand him as I know that it is really hard for him to do the same as he had been behaving in that way for most of his life.
I'm not complaining or what so ever but what I learnt from this is that, the person that you choose to love sometimes have these imperfect qualities that some people don't want to find in their partner but for me what I see through these imperfections are unique and perfect which I think sometimes makes me want to stay another day with him. Regardless of how many arguements we have, we tend to let it pass by and move on to the next because we know that we can make things work and that these small waves that we have just makes us even more closer.
Love you Aaron!!
